Life without healthy boundaries is certain to be overwhelming and chaotic. Setting expectations for yourself and those around you gives you peace that you will never find through avoidance, passive aggression, and saying yes when you really want to say no. Practicing assertiveness and self-discipline is a life long task that gets easier as you learn that the discomfort you feel (guilt) is a natural response and one you don’t have to be a victim to.
It’s your responsibility to tell people you’re in relationships with how you feel. Overextending yourself, avoiding discussions about real issues or problems, and letting people rely on you in an unhealthy ways are signs of weak personal and emotional boundaries.
Establishing boundaries is one of the best ways to preserve your emotional energy and define who and what you allow in your life. Most importantly, you internalize the message that you teach people how to treat you.